If you spend any time in mindfulness circles, then you’ve frequently heard (and probably recited) that mindfulness means to pay attention on purpose, in the present moment, and nonjudgmentally.

If you travel in spiritual circles then you know of other ways of thinking about mindfulness such as keeping your attention alive in the present moment.

These insights by Jon Kabat-Zinn and Thich Nhat Hanh, respectively, are powerful and practical. The emphasis on being “purposeful” is crucial as a counterbalance to the automatic pilot default that inhabits our mind most of the time. You can purposefully bring your attention to your child’s smile, to the feeling of the steering wheel, or to the exhale of your breathing. This is mindfulness.

The offering of “aliveness” in the second definition calls us to “wake up” from the sleepwalking of our life, and that we have the opportunity to do so throughout the entirety of our day. It reminds me of a clever observation by Benjamin Franklin: “Some people die at 25 and aren’t buried until 75.”

Let’s advance these insights by exploring three other definitions, culminating to the “official” definition of mindfulness used by scientists.

1.) Mindfulness is letting go of taking things for granted.

This is an emotionally pleasing way to think about mindfulness. We accept the lot we’ve been given in life. We assume and expect things will stay the same. Mindfulness challenges us to awaken from these mind-habits and appreciate the little things. But, this definition lacks a bit in specificity around what is happening when mindfulness is actually practiced.

2.) Mindfulness means to return to the present moment.

A common misconception about mindfulness is that it means to stay in the present moment. People practice meditation and get quickly frustrated by their mind’s disinterest in staying in the present moment. Many will exclaim: “I can’t be mindful. I can’t stay in the moment!” But the reality is no one’s mind stays in the present moment. And, considering the nature of what our mind needs to process and compute in each moment, we would not be able to control our mind to chronically stay. But, we have control over the return. We can always return our mind to the present moment, return it to our breath or our senses which can be found in the present moment. This definition is simplistic and clear but not specific enough.

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